Gaining Independence

Gaining Independence Many parents stand by in frustration wondering how they can help a challenged small fry develop new skills. The very first step to completing this caper is ridding our minds of the word disabled. The dictionary defines disabled as an umbrella term for mortal who is being incapacitated by illness or injury or in broad terms physically or mentally impaired. The biggest hand we can give our nestlingren is independence. Independence is freedom from dependency of us. Thats what either mother wants, her pincer to fly from the nest and live a biography of happiness and freedom.Another thing we can do for our children is step back and go forth them to struggle a bit. Remember the saying necessity is the mother of contrivance? What that means is through necessity, people become creative and make do with the things they do have. It makes them more kind, compassionate and grateful towards life. Through struggles a child learns perseverance. Perseverance will fuel a child with the energy to move around hard at developing skills and build self esteem. The natural listing of a parent is to swoop in and rescue the child when they struggle, or cry or attempt to give up because a education experience has challenged them.Unfortunately, by rescuing our children we are unconsciously conditioning them to be capable on us. And that is something that can be prevented. Disabled children can be self-supporting they just need to show them how. First, help them find their own strengths. Everyone has a strong suit or strength. Whether its compassion, or math. But, everyone does. So, develop these strong suits and strengths and benefit on the things they CAN do. Second, dont use the word damage as an excuse. Everyone has some adversity or challenge to overcome. EVERYONE.But, where appropriate, hold your child to the same standards as you would with any other child. Doing so, will make him or her stronger in the long run and give them the best chance t o be and function more independently. Third be there to help, Independence doesnt mean dropping someone in the middle of the ocean. Growing up pis a difficult enough for any child and can be stressful at many different levels. Knowing they have a safety net is critical part of developing confidence and allows them to ambit their abilities without being frozen by overwhelming fear of failure.Fourth, you have to be obviate giving your child directions all the time. Otherwise they will neer become independent. It is a good idea to supervise your child, but you should avoid correcting their actions and behaviors in front of others Generally it is best to show your kid how to do things and let them learn from their mistakes. It is always better to help your child preferably than criticizing their actions. In conclusion, always put the person first, not their deadening. Anyone with a disability would rather people to see them. Not their disability, simply because they are a person. Not a disability.